What I Learned from Reading 7 Simple Steps by Jessica Hagy

Evan Genest says #

I wish I had known about this book when I was a mentor of tenth graders. Back then I was too focused on teaching chemistry. I could have added this sort of coaching and pep talks and reached a totally different part of my audience.

There's great Growth Mindset tips in this book, concretized. I'm putting all the nuggets here now. Surely I will get a chance to use these in a coaching situation.

Notes:

Be Focused #

• If you feel overwhelmed, find one small task to take.
• Dwell on what you want, rather than what worries you.
• Start with envy. Envy isn't shameful, it's powerful.
• Make plans to make progress. Once you see the path, you can take it.
• Spend time planning, not worrying or escaping.
• When you think about what you crave, desire, and wish for -- how do you feel?

Be Hopeful #

• Think of your future self as the child of your current self
• Just treading water is important work. Don't feel bad if you aren't taking "huge leaps forward".
• Train the voice in your head to give pep talks, not put downs. Think you're lucky? You will be lucky. (This is a form of gratitude.) XXX

Be Resourceful #

• Every obstacle is a resource. Your current situation contains all of the components of your future success. It's a puzzle you can solve any way you want. The present is like an escape room: People pay to be in these things and then solve the way forward.
• Leverage the riches youu have.
• Stop asking for chances; start taking them without permission.
• Fear not what others think. Opinions in the world = [infinity symbol]. There are hundreds of thumbs down, terrible reviews of everything, even Anne Frank's diary
• Treasure your nemesis. When you get your awards someday, thank your nemesis. Love is a scary-strong source of strength. Put your energy into waging peace; fear has no traction when love takes the wheel. XXX
• Don't give up before you begin. If the worst that could happen is that you learn something new, why not just go for what you want? XXX
• Keep a go to kit: Your most trussted friend and all their contact information. Your favorite place to be and how to get there.

Be Earnest #

• Heroes dare to fix what's busted. Notice -> Ignore -> multiplied problem. Notice -> Fix -> Solved.XXX
• If you don't ask for help, nobody will know you need it.
• Nobody ever did anything amazing nonchalantly. Anything worth doing is worth doing with an intense and potentially embarrassing amount of energy.
• Action.

Be Connected #

• Connect with those who share your focus.
• Volunteer to do this. Do it in public.
• Exile is a form of punishment. And remember, you are the missing piece of someone else's puzzle.
• Sort your surrounders: recognize which people around you speak in helpful terms. XXX
• Put your connecting techniques to work: Compliment others 2x as much as you think you should. Be welcoming, not gate keeping whenever you meet anyone new.
• Invite as many people to as many things as possible.

Be Aware #

• Check in with yourself often.
• Give everyone more credit. The iceberg of obliviousness: what we see/what's really going on with them.
• Ask yourself why you spend your time the way you do. Avoiding your destiny often looks like a schedule full of nothing of importance.
• Doing fewer things means doing bigger things.

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